Smart Sex/Great Sex Series: After a Sexual Assault

By deb kozak   Trigger warning: Blog discusses sexual assault. If you are triggered by anything you read here, please call the Klinic Crisis line at 204-786-8686 (in Winnipeg) or toll-free 1-888-322-3018 (outside Winnipeg). Trained helpers are available 24 hours a day to give confidential support and helpful information. In our last blog, we talked about how important communication and clear consent is in sexual encounters. Ideally, each of us would always be consenting every time we have sex, the whole time we are having sex. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. At some point in our lives, in spite of our best planning and preparation, we may find ourselves in a situation where sex has happened in a way or at a time we didn’t want it to. Even

Smart Sex/Great Sex Series: Sexual Consent

by deb kozak Sexual consent? Sure, we see people talking about sex on everything from movies, to reality tv shows like The Bachelorette or Jersey Shore. While it might seem like sex is everywhere, conversations about consent are not. In fact, we’re more likely to hear about consent in media and in our communities only after a sex act has occurred and there’s some doubt about whether everyone involved wanted it to happen. So what exactly is consent? Quite simply, it is the voluntary, sober, and mutual agreement we make with other people to be sexually active together. That means any time we’re being sexual active with other people – doing things like deep kissing, touching genitals, oral sex, anal sex, or intercourse – every one of